How To Make Good Impression
don’t know how to make a good impression on people ? each of you has magic inside . should you not know how to use it , you had better read this article.
There is a story about a reporter who interviewed a teenage criminal in New York city. USA . when the reporter asked the criminal how he usually picked his victim the 17 year old bay said “ i look for an isolated person who gets frightened when i look into his or her eyes !”
‘ would i make a good victim ?” the reporter wanted to know .
“ no i wouldn’t mess with you !”
“ why not ?”
“when i first walked into the room, you looked right into my eyes, and then you looked at me as if measuring me to judge if you could take me into a flight. this type of person causes trouble. “
the young criminal seems good at distinguishing a potential victim from a fighter. He could instinctively read body language that predicted a successful hit. On the other hand , the reporter created a positive image which could keep him away from trouble. He had impressed the kid by his appearance making him believe that he was not to be defeated easily.
Research has shown that within seven seconds after we meet someone for the first time, we start to analyze the person. some kind of unspoken communication takes place we signal our true feelings through our eyes, face, body and attitude , and at the same time we receive signals from our new acquaintance.
. The problem now is show we can favorably impress other people at the first meeting . here are some tips for you.
You are the message
Someone you talk to will regard you as the message therefore, giving a nice impression is essential in this case use your good qualities. Take stock your personal assets physical appearance, rate of speech , pitch and tone o your voice , gestures, or expressiveness of your eyes. All this will help you make a good impression on people around you. So they will want to be with you and cooperate with you.
Be yourself
Some public speakers send confusing signals to the audience. Hey say ,’ ladies and gentlemen, I’m very happy to be here,” while their eyes are fixed on the ceiling or their shoes. They do not look happy they look angry , frightened, or depressed.
The most effective people never change their character from one situation to another. They are practically the same whether they are having an intimate conversation , speaking in public or being interviewed. You should communicate with you whole being . do not pretend to feel something if you don’t feel it, because people believe in non verbal signs more than they do verbal ones. Te trick is to consistently be you , at your best.
Use your eyes
When you talk to one person or hundreds of people don’t forget to use eyes. Some people look at the people they are talking to when they star to speak but after a few sentences they break eye contact and look at after objects.
Many of us compare entering a room full of people to going into a lion’s cage. This is not really true . even if it is do eyes comfortably in random pattern, and look directly into the eyes of people in the room, and smile . by doing this you signal to the people that are at ease.
Listen before you leap
you cannot learn while you are talking. So when you are at the party .don’t immediately throw out your opinions. Listen and absorb what is going on. What are the moods of the other people – are they up, down , happy, unhappy ? are you can sense what is on people’s a minds, you can easily reach them.
Focus your energy
Before you meet someone important, it is essential that you take a brief rest to focus your energy. How ? sit quietly, breathe deeply , and collect your though. Focus on the goal of the meeting. And if you feel like doing it, you can walk around for a few minutes to help you relax.
A good impression is important in building good relationship. Everyone will analyze you the firs time you meet him or her. Consciously or unconsciously you will send signals to your new acquaintance. and these signals are ‘ the real you “ the impression you give can make people fear you make them feel comfortable or feel at ease with you.
Tony Hutabarat
Source reader’s digest, November 1989
Take from a book “ Contact “ Vol 7 No.43
There is a story about a reporter who interviewed a teenage criminal in New York city. USA . when the reporter asked the criminal how he usually picked his victim the 17 year old bay said “ i look for an isolated person who gets frightened when i look into his or her eyes !”
‘ would i make a good victim ?” the reporter wanted to know .
“ no i wouldn’t mess with you !”
“ why not ?”
“when i first walked into the room, you looked right into my eyes, and then you looked at me as if measuring me to judge if you could take me into a flight. this type of person causes trouble. “
the young criminal seems good at distinguishing a potential victim from a fighter. He could instinctively read body language that predicted a successful hit. On the other hand , the reporter created a positive image which could keep him away from trouble. He had impressed the kid by his appearance making him believe that he was not to be defeated easily.
Research has shown that within seven seconds after we meet someone for the first time, we start to analyze the person. some kind of unspoken communication takes place we signal our true feelings through our eyes, face, body and attitude , and at the same time we receive signals from our new acquaintance.
. The problem now is show we can favorably impress other people at the first meeting . here are some tips for you.
You are the message
Someone you talk to will regard you as the message therefore, giving a nice impression is essential in this case use your good qualities. Take stock your personal assets physical appearance, rate of speech , pitch and tone o your voice , gestures, or expressiveness of your eyes. All this will help you make a good impression on people around you. So they will want to be with you and cooperate with you.
Be yourself
Some public speakers send confusing signals to the audience. Hey say ,’ ladies and gentlemen, I’m very happy to be here,” while their eyes are fixed on the ceiling or their shoes. They do not look happy they look angry , frightened, or depressed.
The most effective people never change their character from one situation to another. They are practically the same whether they are having an intimate conversation , speaking in public or being interviewed. You should communicate with you whole being . do not pretend to feel something if you don’t feel it, because people believe in non verbal signs more than they do verbal ones. Te trick is to consistently be you , at your best.
Use your eyes
When you talk to one person or hundreds of people don’t forget to use eyes. Some people look at the people they are talking to when they star to speak but after a few sentences they break eye contact and look at after objects.
Many of us compare entering a room full of people to going into a lion’s cage. This is not really true . even if it is do eyes comfortably in random pattern, and look directly into the eyes of people in the room, and smile . by doing this you signal to the people that are at ease.
Listen before you leap
you cannot learn while you are talking. So when you are at the party .don’t immediately throw out your opinions. Listen and absorb what is going on. What are the moods of the other people – are they up, down , happy, unhappy ? are you can sense what is on people’s a minds, you can easily reach them.
Focus your energy
Before you meet someone important, it is essential that you take a brief rest to focus your energy. How ? sit quietly, breathe deeply , and collect your though. Focus on the goal of the meeting. And if you feel like doing it, you can walk around for a few minutes to help you relax.
A good impression is important in building good relationship. Everyone will analyze you the firs time you meet him or her. Consciously or unconsciously you will send signals to your new acquaintance. and these signals are ‘ the real you “ the impression you give can make people fear you make them feel comfortable or feel at ease with you.
Tony Hutabarat
Source reader’s digest, November 1989
Take from a book “ Contact “ Vol 7 No.43
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